Boudoir Lingerie Ideas

Best Things to Wear for a Boudoir Photo Shoot

One of the most common questions I’m asked by my clients is what they should wear to their boudoir photo shoot. To make things easy I’ve indexed this page by body region to help you select lingerie for particular area’s you’re sensitive or insecure about.

By enhancing or diminishing these areas you will not only feel more confident for your photo shoot but your final imagery will turn out better as well.

If you don’t have any insecurities and just want to know where to shop locally or online, check out one of the links below.

Select the Sensitive Area of Your Body to Get Started

Tummy / Torso


Upper Arms

Thighs & Legs

Places to Buy Lingerie

Local Lingerie Boutiques

Lingerie Retailers Online

Tummy & Torso Lingerie Ideas

Far and away the most common area women worry about is their tummy area. The entire torso area is a concern for many plus size women and also very fit mothers who have stretch marks from their pregnancies. This area is so commonly worried about that I’d estimate somewhere between 70-80% of the women that come in to see me mention it at their consults.

The good news here is there are a TON of sexy options to help you with this area! For women worried about their torso I recommend looking at the following styles of lingerie:


One of my favorite pieces for most women, the corset will hide all of your sensitive areas while accentuating your feminine form.

Under Bust Corset

Same as the corset but sexier, the under bust draws attention to your chest while simultaneously contouring your torso. This is the perfect solution for women worried about their tummy but who love their boobs!

Corset Hack!

Corset Lingerie

Most of the time when you buy a corset that isn’t custom made for you, they come with a really shitty lace for the back that is chincy and cheap looking. The good news is this is super easy and cheap to upgrade with a high quality lace from Amazon or your local fabric store. For this corset I literally swapped the corset lace with the laces of my gym shoes. This hack is cheap, easy and will significantly upgrade your corset so it looks MUCH higher end.

Drawing attention to your chest and providing support, the babydoll is basically a flowy lingerie mini dress. Seriously effective tool every plus size women should consider.

Sometimes called “body suits” these pieces show off your chest while shaping your overall form and giving your tummy cover. Very effective for all body types.

Perfect for defining your body shape while ironing out torso imperfections. Great lingerie choice for mature women over 40 with tummy insecurities.

One of my favorite ways to hide the pooch on the lower stomach while still showing some skin below the bra line. This is one of one of my go to tips for moms that get the lower ab separation and or stretch marks after childbirth.


Sweater and your favorite pair of panties… Ummm yes please!


Posed seductively and without a bra to attract attention to your chest, the humble t-shirt is often overlooked for things to bring. Make sure and opt for shirts with wide or low cut necks for more alluring poses.

Tank Top

Similar idea to the wide neck t-shirt, the tank top is a pretty great way to show off some side boob and downplay your torso.


Popular beginning outfit for women with that boho style, just make sure to get a style that opens wide (like this rear zipper) for better opportunity as we work you out of your clothes.

Sport Coat

Get creative! This client brought her sport coat and topped it off with the perfect bow tie for this epic shot! Great creative option to conceal your tummy will showing off your chest.

Lace gowns are practically witchcraft and something all women should consider for their photo shoots!

All of these options can draw attention away from the areas you’re worried about and still keep things sexy by still showing a lot of skin with the cut or the sheerness of the material. In most cases, even though the material might be super sheer, just having the material there in combination with the lighting and posing during your photo shoot is often more than enough to break up that area yet still keep things sexy.

To really drive this point home of just how powerful these outfit choices can be for your tummy area, these clients featured below were all self conscious of their mid sections. Their outfit choices not only helped them feel more confident during their sessions, but also helped shape their bodies, giving all of them super beautiful final images.

The Ta Ta's

Probably the second most common thing I hear women mention at their consults is nervousness about their chest. For some women it’s a lack of size they’re worried about, for others it’s a lack of lift which is common among mothers and mature women. We’ll address both of these circumstances separately.


Lingerie Ideas for women who need chest lift

For moderate to large breasted women worried that their boobs aren’t perky enough, this is actually a pretty easy fix and you will find TONS of lingerie options to help you fix this. All the following styles of lingerie are perfect for helping you out with breast lift so long as you get the more supportive options.

With the built in support of a bra, teddy’s have the added bonus of giving you moderate cover of your torso if you feel like you need it. Many will clip in to your stockings too if you need leg cover or help with cellulite.

For large breasted women who don’t need cover on their torso these will be a pretty awesome investment when paired with matching panties.

Corsets are famous for their ability to produce drool worthy cleavage, but they can also enhance your silhouette as an added bonus! All women who aren’t super flat chested should strongly consider a corset for their photo shoot.

This chemise was form fitting which will not only enhanced the shape and support of her chest, but also acted as a body shaper for the rest of her torso.

Babydolls with built in support are fantastic for busty women that need lift to make their boobs look this awesome. Very effective enhancement for women over 40 and mothers who have breast fed.

Night Gown

Pretty much the same idea as a babydoll, these tend to be less sheer and more vintage looking if you’re into that sort of thing like I am.

All of the above options are fantastic assuming again that you get the designs with more bra like qualities built into them. Take the time to find outfits that fit your bust well and if possible it’s a good idea to get custom fitted by a local lingerie boutique. Your extra effort here will pay serious dividends towards more amazing final images :-)


Lingerie ideas for women with small breasts

The other common worry among many of my clients (especially skinnier women at the other end of the spectrum) is the small size of their chest. Most of the time I find that this insecurity is unnecessary.

With good posing and lighting techniques you will look much larger than what you see in your day to day life. To give the illusion of more volume most women with small breasts will benefit greatly from the following options:


Winter turtle necks or high cut sweaters like this always have that conservatively sexy feel to them. Make sure and choose high cuts or wide necks for more posing options and better final images.


A scarf is like boudoir sleight of hand. I use the hell out of these to draw attention away from areas you’re sensitive about toward your other powerful assets.

The classic solution for small breasted women. Make sure and get a bra that pushes your boobs up and in to give the illusion of more volume without being so tight around your torso that it creates the loose skin look out the top and bottom of the torso strap.


Simple slips with conservative top details are a good idea for very small breasted women. We’ll keep the attention on aggressive cross lighting for maximum shadow (and thus perceived size) and accentuating your other curves like your hips.

Extreme circumstances

In more extreme cases where women are especially small, I’d advocate covering your chest with lingerie pieces and scarves that aren’t low cut to show your cleavage or side boob. You will benefit greatly from slips, pushup bras and bralettes with more straight cut tops that don’t V down too far and draw attention to your chest.


Similar idea to the idea behind the push-up bra but less aggressive for giving the illusion of size. The benefit of these with the wide torso strap is that they will show way better if you hold extra fat around your rib area. If this is a problem for you just remember, the wider that torso strap is the better!

I’ve also done some pretty great shots where we’ve tied scarves around the woman’s chest like a makeshift bra which again plays down the area between your boobs (which is commonly accented by many lingerie pieces) and also covers up the side of your chest as well.

Detailing the tops and sides of your chest in this manner will actually make it so the viewer has a hard time determining your size since your shape is somewhat obscured.

Tip!!! Search for “push up adhesive bra” as a way to build more cleavage under your favorite chamise, corset, slip or scarf

Upper Arms

This area is less common than the areas mentioned above, but I still hear about it enough to address it. This area can be a sensitive spot for plus size women and can be a challenge to shop for.

I’ve seen some really nice sleeved pieces some women have brought in, but they’re not super common to find out in the wild when you’re looking for them.

Pro Tip!

Search: “Long Sleeve” + “any lingerie mentioned in this post” to easily find whatever you have in mind.

Example: Long Sleeve Lace Gown

If you’re worried about your upper arms you should strongly consider adding the following pieces to your collection. Basically anything with sleeves and the ability to cut way low into your bust (or totally open front) is a good way to keep things hot while still giving your arms cover ;-)

Anything long sleeve will be worth every penny if you’re worried about your upper arm area. Robes are always a good idea and provide tons of posing opportunity.

Button Up Shirt

Yours or his is up to you. I tend to like them better when they’re yours as they are more form fitting and sexy AF to work out of. That said he’ll LOVE the shot where he’s implied! Anything long sleeve and open front will give you a lot of opportunity.

Thighs & Legs

Another super common area women are self conscious about is their legs, especially the thigh area where cellulite and the dreaded “saddle bags” can live. The easiest way around this is simply to get a sexy set of stockings and just rock those! I’d suggest you bring any of these examples if you’re sensitive about your thighs and legs:

Provides heavy cover for your legs while still keeping shit sensual. Every woman should consider a pair of these for their photo shoot.

Fishnet Stockings

A great accent that provides light leg cover. These can be pretty awesome when paired with a matching top, bottom and garter belt.

Thigh High Socks

Pretty much all of you reading this should consider bringing a pair of these to your photo shoot. They’re pretty great for just about everyone.


Jeans are a pretty great way to begin your set and provide awesome cover. There’s tons of sexy ways to work out of them as your set progresses. It should go without saying to choose the pair that makes your butt look the best.

More lingerie ideas for leg and butt insecurities

Stockings and garter belts tend to be pretty inexpensive and you can even get multiple styles and colors to change things up throughout your set. The main idea here is to keep some skin showing right below your panty line but above the stocking or sock tops to keep your images suggestive.

Another obvious choice to give your legs, thighs and butt some cover are maxi gowns. Seriously DO NOT underestimate how epic these can be! If you’re only worried about your upper thigh area you can pretty easily find some midi dresses or babydolls that will do the same thing. Opt for higher cut mini dresses and cocktail dresses if you just need to iron out some cellulite on your butt.

Best Places to Get Lingerie

Now that you have an idea of what pieces you should get to flatter your body type most, the question is where should you get it??? I’m going to do my best to answer this in two parts consisting of local boutiques (San Francisco bay area) and internet retailers.

There are definitely advantages and disadvantages to shopping both locally and online. Shopping locally for your lingerie not only supports local business but it also allows you try try stuff on before you buy, which is how you get the best fitting stuff AND better images .

If you’ve given yourself plenty of time before your photo shoot, shopping online often offers more variety at a much lower cost. The downside to shopping online is that you will need to over buy a lot of stuff and return what doesn’t fit later after you try it on. As many of you reading this know, this can be quite the pain in the butt because most lingerie needs to be form fitting, sizes are different from manufacture to manufacture etc.

Sex shops are usually a hard pass in my book for lingerie shopping as the pieces tends to be cheap and or trashy. Cheap looking nurse outfit… No thanks! This isn’t a hard rule, and I’ve seen some boutiques that pull it off. It’s just not the first place you should probably go. Here’s a few places I like locally you should should consider checking out first:

Local Lingerie Retailers

Knickers & Pearls | Lingerie Boutique

This boutique is a local gem! Consistently super high quality tasteful collections every time I stop by. I found this top and bottom for my session with Nicole’s here.

Lingerie Retailers Online

Did I Miss Anything???

I want to make this the best resource I can for everyone shopping for their upcoming boudoir photo shoot. Please mention anything I might have missed in the comments below so I can make this better for others in the future :-)