Boudoir photography often carries a mix of excitement and hesitation. Some see it as simply objectifying sexy photos, but the real reason women choose this experience is not just to look beautiful, but to truly feel beautiful. This mindset shift of feeling beautiful is the real magic of your boudoir experience.
In this post, I’ll cover the most common concerns women have about boudoir photography and dispel these objections so you can book your shoot feeling excited rather than nervous. By giving yourself this experience, you’ll see yourself from your best angles and under fantastic lighting. Seeing yourself at your best then allows you to recalibrate your self-image and silence the negative self-talk so many of us battle. Boudoir photography isn’t about objectification—it’s about making you feel beautiful about what was there all along.
I Need to Tone-Up / Loose Weight First
Feeling like you need to lose weight or tone up before your boudoir shoot? You’re not alone—this is the most common objection I hear about why a woman feels she shouldn’t do her session next week.
But here’s the truth, even women in incredible shape often have doubts about their bodies. Why? Because we rarely see ourselves in the best lighting or from flattering angles. A boudoir session changes that by showing you want you actually look like at your best rather than letting the negative thoughts shape your self perceptions.
Boudoir photography isn’t about objectifying yourself with sensual images, it’s about seeing yourself from your best angles and under beautiful light. Almost no one feels fully confident before a boudoir shoot. That confidence? Typically it comes afterward, when you see your images and realize just how stunning you already are.
I Don’t Want Anyone to See My Photos
You’re always in full control over who see’s your photos and who doesn’t. Keep them private, share them all, or select a few to share on my website and social channels. It’s always up to you, but I deeply appreciate those who let me share their images. It helps spread the word about what I do and inspires other women to have this experience. That said, if privacy matters to you, no one will see your images except me.
It’s Too Expensive
The cost of a boudoir shoot makes some women hesitate, but many don’t realize how much a session can boost your self-confidence. I’ve had clients tell me their session did more for their self esteem than years of therapy. When you think of it that way, a boudoir shoot is a relative bargain.
Cheap boudoir photographers might seem like a good option until you find out it often ends up costing more because you’ll likely need a second session. I know this firsthand because I’ve photographed many clients who came to me after an unsatisfying experience with someone else.
It Feels Vain To Have Photos Taken for Myself
Some women hesitate to do a boudoir shoot because they don’t have anyone to give the images to. This is especially true for women going through a divorce. But boudoir photography isn’t always about creating photos for someone else. In fact, most of my clients tell me that even if they’re gifting their photos to someone, their main reason for doing the shoot is for themselves.
The primary reason to do a boudoir photo shoot is to change how you see yourself. Wanting to feel better about your body isn’t vain or strange—it’s a healthy mindset. The sexy photos are just a bonus. The true reward is the confidence you gain from seeing your own beauty and embracing it.
I Hate Having My Picture Taken
Feeling unsure about posing is normal, especially if you hate having your photo taken. But many women in my portfolio once felt the same way—now, they’re the ones inspiring others by sharing their photos!
The truth is that even professional models need feedback and direction when they’re in front of the camera because they can’t see themselves while being photographed. That’s where a good photographer comes in.
My job is to guide into stunning light, ensuring you look your absolute best. You’ll never be left wondering what to do or where to put your hand, I’ll show you how to do all that stuff. By the end you might even be suggesting poses to me!
Some Boudoir Photos Are Outside My Comfort Zone
Me too. There’s definitely a line where things go too far and I prefer always have a touch of mystery even for nude boudoir photos. In fact, I have no interest in photographing you beyond your comfort level. Since you’ll only be purchasing the images you love from your photo shoot, I’m only interested in creating photos you’ll want to purchase.
So if you want topless photos but would prefer to keep your underwear on. Sounds great! Perhaps you’re more conservative and portraits in your bra and panties feels like you’re pushing the envelope. That’s cool too! The point is to deliver classy sexy boudoir photos that make you feel gorgeous.
Fear of Being Judged
Some women worry about how others—partners, friends, or family—might judge them for doing a boudoir photo shoot. All of that is totally understandable and completely valid. These people care about you and don’t want anything bad to happen to you. However at the same time, there’s also probably a lot of those people who are projecting their own personal fears and insecurities onto you.
The truth is there’s always going to be someone that will tell you all the reasons you shouldn’t do a session. If it’s a close partner who’s resistant, consider including them in the process. Sharing details about your shoot allows them to ask questions and better understand why it’s important to you. Once they see that boudoir photography doesn’t mean porn, most become more open to the idea—some even get excited.
I’m Too Old For Boudoir Photos
While I agree that there’s a point where you can age out of a boudoir photo shoot, it’s often way older them most women think. Assuming you practice healthy habits, my 40+ clients showed me that you can still look sexy and beautiful even at 60 years old. I’ve personally photographed boudoir sessions for women as old as 73, but I find that for the most part it’s more about healthy lifestyle choices then years around the sun. It’s never too late to attain new body goals!!!
The Leap of Faith
Boudoir photography is often misunderstood, but when approached with an open mind, it can serve as a transformative experience that redefines the way you see yourself. It’s not about creating sexy photos for someone else. It’s about creating beautiful images for you that make you feel sexy.
If you’re ready to ditch those boudoir photo shoot fears, I’ve got you! Your session won’t book itself, and waiting for “someday” usually means never.