boudoir photography

Battling your Inner Critic

Battling your Inner Critic

One of the most curious things I get to observe as a male boudoir photographer is just how prevalent it is for women latch on to perceived body flaws and build narratives around them. As a whole, we as men don’t do this nearly as much as women do. This behavior is actually something so uncommon in men I actually have to slow down and explain women’s perspective to men curious about why a woman would want to do a boudoir session for herself.

To further exaggerate this, I’ll show women the images from past clients who did their sessions despite their insecurities and often times they will make a comment along the lines of

“what the fuck did she have to be nervous about?!? She’s gorgeous!!!”

The truth that I think most women don’t realize is that the inner critic is something that infects the minds of women of all body types and age ranges. It’s a condition that has no mercy that I’ve personally seen exhibited in published models and mothers of multiple children alike.

Devon's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Devon's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Most women that contact me, are super nervous about their sessions. They are worried about this or that perceived body flaw and how they will appear when I level my camera at them. This was not one of those sessions. No, Devon has been photographed before and she is one of the rare women I have had come see me, that is super confident in herself.

Dannielle's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Dannielle's Boudoir Photo Shoot

I see a ton of "boudoir photographers" these days with portfolios and instagram profiles full of models. Do I have models in my portfolio? Abso-freakin-lutely! The vast majority of the women in my portfolio however is comprised of moms and every day women that decide to come do a boudoir photo shoot with me to help them change the way they see themselves.

Bay Area Fine Art Nude Photographer

Bay Area Fine Art Nude Photographer

As a boudoir and fine art nude photographer, it is very important to me that my boudoir images are classy. My role models for this standard have always been the old renaissance painters and among my current favorite are the works of Jean-Marc Nattier. You'll notice that when these old masters painted nude women, it's always done with class using shadows and careful posing to their advantage, keeping everything timelessly beautiful.

Summer's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Summer's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Summer was nervous about her boudoir photoshoot with me because she didn't want to have a repeat experience of being photographed for her boudoir session without any coaching on how to pose her body. I told her not to worry and that my makeup artist and I would take care of everything and make her look amazing. 

Christine's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Christine's Boudoir Photo Shoot

Christine was openly nervous about her boudoir photoshoot before we started, however after hair and makeup artist Ducky Rickman gave her a full makeover it was all down hill from there. After her makeover, I coached Christine on how to pose her body and nail her expression with great consistency. Together we photographed one of my favorite boudoir sessions to date.